"When I chased after money, I never had enough. When I got my life on purpose and focused on giving of myself and everything that arrived into my life, then I was prosperous."
~ Wayne Dyer

Stop the mindless wishing that things would be different. Rather than wasting time and emotional and spiritual energy in explaining why we don't have what we want, we can start to pursue other ways to get it.

25 Ways of Saying You Love Him...

1. Be honest yet gentle, caring yet easy-going, ready for fun yet there for him when he needs an ear or a shoulder.
2. Learn what he digs and give it to him in a steady doses. Don't bury him with a dozen gifts, calls, notes a day--way too intense! just make sure he knows you're into him for who he is.
3. if you love someone, set him free. Have your own life too.. you need space for the same reasons he does.
4. Surprise him! Throw him a party, try out a new look. Be willing to try adventurous things.
5. Let him know he can be himself by being yourself. Forget what you think he wants you to be like, and be who you truly are.
6. If a guy's gonna be your guy, every date can't be a big deal. You should be able to just hang out. Take a walk with him, watch a movie together on tv--you don't necessarily need a destination.
7. Apply the golden rule of romance: Do unto him as you want him to do unto you. So don't flirt around!
8. Listen when he speaks, not just with your ears but with your heart.
9. Teach him something you know that he doesn't know. But be sure to share your skills,smarts, talents in a loving, constructive way. Don't come off like a know-it-all: People who have to parade their intelligence reek of insecurity.
10. Be reliable. If you make dates or promises keep them. If you can't, be responsible about letting him know, and explain why.
11. They feel good when they know their GF depends on them. It means going to him when you need an opinion, when you're feeling out of sorts or upset.
12. Tell him you were thinking about him when you were apart. Not just yearning for him, but wishing him well, wherever he was and whatever he was doing.
13. Help him see past the present to what could be in the future. Listen to his dreams and focus on how he can achieve them. When he succeeds in any step along the way, reward him by noticing.
14. Settle arguments so that you both win. Don't shout, don't blame. Instead focus on learning why you're both upset and finding new attitudes or ways to prevent the problem in the future. Apologize if you know you've done something cruddy, but don't dwell on it. If you've made a mistake, admit it sincerely and move on.
15. Don't try to change him, or make him fit your image of the perfect guy. Don't judge or criticize. There's a reason behind all his likes and dislikes.
16. Take good care of yourself. Make healthy choices to nourish your body. Your guy want you to take care about your appearance.
17. Look deeply into his eyes. Make eye contact with him. And when you connect, kiss him.
18. Give his friends a chance; let them get to know you.
19. Responds to his effeort to be kind. Also thank him for just being him, for all the positive qualities you admire in his character.
20. You should still be there as a friend not just his girlfriend. But his everything.
21. Keep things simple. Choose easy, inexpensive ways to express how you feel about him.
22. They don't want a jealous girl. All jealousy shows that you're insecure about his love--and yourself--a major turn-off.23. Develop your own style--your own attitudes. Being interested in your guy isn't enough--you have to be interesting too.
24. Get to know his parents and siblings. Learn about their likes and needs and be respectful of them. They'll be glad you involved in their son's life!
25. If you really, truly feel it, say it. Dont worry if he hasn't said it first--maybe he's waiting for you. You want to know if he loves you back, right? This is one of the best ways to find out..

It's Hard to Say Goodbye

It's hard to say 'I love you'
When it's time to say goodbye
For the love we felt was very strong
Flowing through both you and I

But if you keep a wild bird
locked up in a cage
It will in time just flap its wings
filling you both with rage

It's time to let the past move on
but keep the moments that we treasured
Of all those times we enjoyed ourselves
That brought us so much pleasure

For all the memories that we made
will remain contained inside
And they'll be there for years
To allow us to look back with pride

So move on now, don't look back
And mark those times we had
No regrets! Just loving thoughts
And PLEASE don't think so sad

There will always remain inside my heart
A special place for YOU
And I would hope the same for me
A place in your heart too

Have You Ever?

Have you ever just sat their with your fingers in your hair and the palms of your hands covering your face and forehead?

Have you ever sat in the corner of a room rocking back and fourth with a pillow just crying- waiting to lash out and is ready to scream at any possible chance.

Have you ever walked into a situation in life saying I will do my best and I will not let myself down... but only to totally go against your own principles and set of rules... and fail miserably?

Have you ever sat down all alone in a restaurant and just looked around at stupid little objects just to make it look like you were doing something- but in actuality you were sitting there because its the ONLY place you could go that people wouldnt bug you and its the ONLY place you felt could get you out of the "I'm worth nothing... I hope I die" type of mood? Its the only place you knew you wouldnt have the guts to hurt yourself in- you knew you could keep yourself safe.

Have you ever walked down congested- school hallway, already in a bad mood and fighting the hours of the day ... just trying to get to ur next class and get through it... just get through it... only to run into the one person you HATE in the hallway on your way there? that not only makes your day feel even more impossible to get through, but on top of that all- they looked at you... but no- it wasnt the same kind of look as before... it was different before- it use to be "hey how are you doing today? wanna hang out? I've missed doing stuff with you" to this evil stare that could swallow you up and spit you out in that 1 second- that ONE split moment that they look at you... you know when you watch the Twilight Zone? and at the beginning they have all these random objects and things flying past the screen... well once they look at you- its that SAME whirlwind of random things- except there past memories, and random thoughts. Its not the fact that person even effects you even more. its the fact that i can look at them and bow my head in shame saying to myself "damnit... i let you get to me... when you havent even felt the slightest bit of pain... and you went through it ALL with me... you went through the SAME situation as me but you dont care... you never cared... how could i be so weak- so gullible? when all along this person is getting on with their life perfectly fine and im sitting here wishing i would've yelled at them more when it happened- or done something... something for myself" its my own fault- i was unsure of what i was getting into- ill blame myself i just hope that he knows- i fucking hate you for making me fucking hate myself. i will never understand why i was a coward- why i let people step all over me and then appologize. have you ever been able to just sit in a desk or somewhere where there are other people around you and people- like your friends talking about something fun for the upcoming weekend... but the only thing you can do is be stuck in the trance you call your thoughts and your life... you cant get out of it and it gets to the point where smiling- make you feel like a liar. I guess would like to know... since so many people say they can relate to me... well... have you ever?........

Positive Expectations

" You can have it all. You just can't have it all at one time. "
~ Oprah Winfrey

If you don't learn to EXPECT success, it will never happen. Great Expectations give rise to great belief and faith... not the other way around.

Belief and faith gives rise to purpose and power... the power you need to meet or exceed your expectations.

This a universal law of the universe:
With greater personal power, you earn the right to expect MORE and incur the obligation to perform even BETTER.

Yes, More Power = Having it All...

As Oprah says, you can have it all, but not all at once. (She would know!)

This means you must remain focused on your goals, and put your choices in the right context: What is right for your life... right now.

It Is Possible!!!

" It is idleness that creates impossibilities; and where people don't care to do anything, they shelter themselves under a permission that it cannot be done. "

Possible or impossible. Who can say? All I know is that if you don't believe you can, you won't.

As I grow older, I become more and more convinced that what is POSSIBLE for our lives is a function of setting SMART GOALS...goals that are Specific... Measurable... Accountable... Realistic and Tangible.

When you set SMART Goals, you give yourself PERMISSION to succeed. You have direction. You have purpose. You have a plan. You are willing to take action... rather than "shelter yourself under a permission that it cannot be done."

Yes, this makes a huge difference in your end RESULTS. It drives your self-confidence to new heights. It moves you ever closer to the success you desire.

You get into the mind-set of DOING rather than FEARING!

Speech! Speech!

When it's your turn to speak and you're afraid, stop the personal concerns about how you'll look. Make your commitment to what needs to be said greater than your fear of saying it.

If you truly believe in your message, people will believe in it too, regardless of how you deliver it.

Speak Clearly -- Listen Carefully -- Confirm Messages.

Be ARTICULATE! Do you really believe in what you're saying?

Be EMPATHETIC! Are the people in your audience really that much different from you?

Be ATTENTIVE! Is there a friendly face in the audience? Talk to it!

The exchange of ideas from one person to another has never been an exact science. You may never understand the other person completely. Neither can you automatically expect others to understand you, and the full background behind the ideas you are trying to communicate. Don't presume that you know what the other person is thinking. Stop the mutual mystification and get it right the first time. Assume you don't know. Ask. Listen. Clarify, Reach Mutual agreement.

"Executive ability is deciding quickly and getting somebody else to do the work."

Think POSITIVE

"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude."

The Bus

You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus. When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself "eeee...so full....cannot sit down. I'll wait for the next one".

So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus. Then the second bus came, you looked at it you say,"eeee...this bus is so old...so shabby!"

So you let thebus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus. After a while another bus came, it's notcrowded, not old but yousaid, "eeee... not air-conditioned ...better waitforthe next one".

So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus. Then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late. You panicked and jumped immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus! So you wasted your time and money waiting forwhat you want! Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air-conditioned bus won't break down or whetheror not the air conditioner will be too cold for you.

Wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn't hurt to give other person a chance, right? If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you just press the red button and get off the bus! (as simple as that!) Hey who said life is fair??? The best thing to do is be observant and open while you scrutinize the bus. If it doesn't suityou, get off. But you must always have an extra something which you could use for the next bus that comes.

But wait........ I'm sure you have this experience before....

You saw a bus coming (the bus you want, of course) you flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed pass you! It just wasn't meant for you! The bottom line is, beingloved is like waiting for a bus you want. Getting on the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you. If you haven't made any choice, WALK! Walking is like being out of love. The good side of it is you can still choose any bus you want... the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on, ugly or not.

One more thing.... sometimes its better to choose a bus you are already familiar with rather than gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you. But then again, life wouldn't be complete without the risks involved.

BUT THERE'S ONE BUS THAT I FORGOT TO TELL YOU ABOUT - THE BUS THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT FOR...IT WILL JUST STOP ON ITS OWN AND WILL ASK YOU TO COME INSIDE AND TAKE A FREE RIDE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

You Never Lose By Loving

You Always Lose By Holding Back

The Philosophy Behind Romance

Romance is a balance of two concepts:
1) Actions speak louder than words.
2) It´s the thought that counts.
[Think about it.]

SOULMATES

Soulmates are not a pair of people who magically work together in peace and harmony without ever running over rough ground. Every relationship has its rough moments, and the key to ´soulmates´ is how the couple learns to *deal with* and surmount these difficulties. Non-soulmates drive each other away when they fight, and don´t learn from the arguments. Soulmates figure out what the triggers are, learn to anticipate each other´s needs, and as their relationship matures, get to the point where each really understands the other.Two individuals in a couple are *indivduals*, and each person grows at a different rate and in different directions. You want to encourage each other to grow, appreciate how your growth helps you both become better people, and your relationship better because of it. Soulmates are not ´found´ - no person can completely know another person when they first meet. You may *think* you know each other fully, but a lot of that is what you think is true about the other, and not actual fact. Soulmates are *built* over a lifetime of love and experience with each other.One key is to believe in yourself, to believe in your partner, and to believe in the relationship. If you are always considering these three items when making decisions, and are secure that your partner is as well, then you´re on your way!

For help and more relationship tips, check this link on Learning How To Begin or Improve Romance in the Relationship

How Can 5 Good Minutes Give You 55 Better Ones?

Take a few minutes off each hour. But don't just sit there. Get up. Exercise or stretch. Get your blood flowing!

A break isn't necessarily a rest period. Use it to switch gears. Take a brisk walk, do exercises in your office or enjoy a nutritious snack.

Take Frequent Breaks to Stretch, Breathe & Snack.

Be RECHARGED! Do you remember recess when you were a kid?

Be REJUVENATED! Instead of another cup of coffee right now, how about a full stretch and some deep breaths?

Be STIMULATED! What quick routine can you repeat to stimulate & recharge your energy throughout the day?
Working for long periods without a break is counter-productive. Pace yourself. Take a five-minute break every hour: stand up, run in place, lift weights or stretch. Take ten deep breaths. Eat a nutritious snack. Drink a large glass of water. Take a short walk. Switch from a mental task to a physical one or vice versa. Then, go back to work energized and recharged.

SELF

"There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self."

OPEN YOUR EYES TO POSSIBILITIES

" Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities -- always see them, for they're always there. "